Cool To Be Pregnant
I stumbled upon an article that was looking into the idea of whether or not teenage girls were starting to consider it cool to be pregnant.
The article mentioned Jamie Lynn Spears and her pregnancy and also the movie “Juno.”
But the main idea was on 17 teenager girls who are expectant moms. It is being reported that the teenage girls made a pact to get pregnant together.
In the article, a psychiatrist was saying that the pregnancy of Jamie Lynn Spears and the multiple recent movies about pregnancy may have had something to do in the pact the girls made and suspects that the media glorifies pregnancy.
Now we all know that teen pregnancy is nothing new, but personally I am noticing an attitude change among teens about this. When I was 15, it was definitely a concern if someone my age was to become pregnant. I know I would be stressed as hell and wouldn’t know what to do. It would be a big deal in my family and my mom would have been understandably upset. But these days, it doesn’t seem to be that way as much when a teen has a baby.
What do you think?
Do you think teens see it as cool to be pregnant?
Feel free to comment and post your thoughts.
Back
Okay, back to this. On Friday the 11th, my sister and I flew out from Indy to Florence, SC with a layover in Charlotte, NC for about an hour. My God, is airport food expensive or what. Anyways, our flights were nice and we arrived into Florence in late afternoon. Dad picked us up at the airport there and we drove about 35 minutes into Myrtle, stopping first all at the Sundown (a favorite bar of the family’s) for something to eat. Then we headed over to the house to see Grandmom. She seemed to be doing okay and taking it well, even though I know it must be hard to lose a husband that you have been with since high school. Well we all talked for a little bit and then went to bed around midnight.
Saturday, we woke up early, around 7am, got ready and helped Grandmom and Dad out with some arrangements. We gathered everything up and headed over to the Sundown which is where the wake party was going to be. We got there around 11am, set all the food and everything up, and then people started showing up around noon. We didn’t expect to be setting up outside because it was really hot, but at least inside was nice and cool. Anyways a bunch of people came, family and friends that I haven’t seen since I was little, and we all ate, drank, and talked about all the good memories with PopPop. The whole thing lasted until about 6pm, and the heat was getting to me. But it was a good time and it was closure enough for me. I think it was a good idea actually, because who wants to go to a sad and depressed funeral? When I go, I think I would much rather have a party than a funeral. Anyways, afterwards, I was pretty drained so as soon as everyone left, we packed up everything and went back to the house. I was so tired, so I took a quick nap. Then when I woke up, Danielle was wanting to go out so she called up our cousin and he took us out to a few bars with a couple of his friends and then out to eat. This is the night where I started thinking about a ton of crap while talking to Danielle about some stuff. I got to wondering why the hell anyone even lives in Indiana. There’s nothing compared to Myrtle. I started realizing that I want to move out of state whenever I can, and considered possibly moving back down there eventually…maybe. I don’t know, maybe not permanently, just having a place there to spend vacations, travel back and forth. I’m too indecisive right now. But yeah, it definitely made me realize how much Indiana sucks. Anyway, we got in later that night.
Sunday, we spent the morning with grandmom. She always makes great breakfast! We were hoping to go out with our cousin Richard again and take the boat out, but we didn’t so me and Dani just spent a few hours at the beach during the afternoon. The house, which is on the same property that her and I lived when we were born, is only about a 15 min straight walk from the beach, so we always pack a beach bag and walk down there and back. We mainly just laid out, went swimming, and walked along the Garden City pier. By time the late afternoon hit, we decided to head back to the house, and then I just chilled there the rest of the night with Grandmom and dad. It’s not every day I get to spend time with either of them. Monday we both got up early and ran some errands with Grandmom, came back and packed to leave, then she took us to the airport around 3pm and we got back to Indy around 10pm. I wish we could have stayed longer, and I will probably want to go back at least next summer at the latest. I got about thirty pictures, so if you want to see them all, go to my flickr.
I think this thing is about due for an update, don’t you? Well in the past 5 weeks I moved, and then moved again, making it the 4th time since October. But you know, stuff just happens and that’s how it goes. Also looking for a new job right now. It’s all a bit of an adjustment, but I’m pretty sure I can handle it. I’m just trying to get myself into a situation that is a little more stable and comfortable, so I can focus on going back to school and thinking about the future. But I don’t plan on neglecting the present though. I’m just starting to realize the life is pretty short and I don’t want to be one of those people that just get caught up in their day to day events and end up letting their whole life pass them by. I won’t let that happen.
In other (sad) news, my grandpa (PopPop) in South Carolina passed away on July 4th. He died of natural causes, although he has been battling cancer for years. It came as a bit of a surprise to me, even though I knew he was getting kind of bad, but I didn’t realize how bad as of the past few months. It really sucks because I wanted to go down to Myrtle Beach and spend a week or two sometime this summer , but instead of going there to visit them and also to just get away for a bit as hoped, my sister and I are flying down there this weekend for his wake service. We leave on Friday from Indianapolis and come back on Monday from Florence, SC. I will be glad to see my grandmom, dad, aunt and uncle, and my cousin, although it won’t be quite the same without him. I still want to make the best out of the situation though. Then hopefully we can make another trip down there sometime and stay for a week or two.
So that is what I have been up to. The summer is already flying by too quickly. Make it stop!!!
Parenting
Yesterday was Mother’s Day, which somehow got me thinking about what kind of mom I’d like to be in the future. One of these days, I do hope to have kids. When that time comes, I really want to be the kind of mom that my kids feel that they can come to me about anything. When it comes to rules and restrictions, I don’t want to be super strict so that they will rebel full force, but I also don’t want to just let them do whatever they want. I want to achieve a happy medium where they know that my intentions are to guide them through life with their well being at heart, and not to control their every move. When they become teenagers, I want to know about when they make important decisions in their life so I can help them make informed and safe choices. I want to listen to them and I want them to listen to me. I want to be able to respect and trust them. I also I want them to respect me and trust me, and not be afraid of how I will react to things they are doing so that they feel they need to lie. I want them to be independent when they become young adults. If they want their own cell phone and material things, I want to teach them how to earn it. I wouldn’t want to push them to do anything they didn’t want to do, like getting into a certain career. I would just want them to do what they would be happy doing.
I want to be a cool mom, and I don’t mean the weird and creepy kind of “cool mom” that tries to act like the same age as their kids, but a cool mom that my kids and also their friends get along well with and can talk to about things. Of course, I believe it’s more important to be a parent first before friends with your children. It’s much easier to become ‘friends’ when they are grown up and out of the house, as I have already found out for myself with my parents. But I want to try to be as close with them as possible yet they still maintain respect for my authority. I guess that is what most parents try to achieve though. I think I might have a few different ways of going about it.
With my mom, it’s hard for me to really classify what “type” of mom she was in raising my sisters and I as kids. Sometimes she was lenient and other times she was more strict. Sometimes she was trusting and sometimes she wasn’t so much. So I don’t really know. Right now she would say, “Well I must have done something right, I raised the best damn three daughters anyone could have!” And what can I say, I can’t disagree with her. 
I definitely wouldn’t be one to say, “When I have kids, I am not going to be anything like my mom was! I’m going to do everything differently” No. I have definitely taken a few good lessons in how she and our stepdad raised us. All in all, I hope I would be a good mom.
What type of parent would you want to be? What would you do differently or the same as your parents?
Randoms
I’m starting to realize how much the weather affects my mood. For the past couple days , it has been chilly, windy, and rainy, and I have felt so blah. But on the days that it is sunny and warm, I feel great. It’s funny how that works.
I have also realized how much I hate wearing regular clothes when I’m just sitting around the house. I can’t stand the feeling of my jeans when I’m trying to get comfortable, curled up watching a movie. So I usually throw on my pajama clothes the minute I walk in the door when I get off work. But I am definitely not one of those girls that wears their pajamas when they go to the pantry , to class, or anywhere else. It would feel weird. If I leave the house, I have to be wearing actual clothes. But that’s just me.
I put some more links up on the side. I completely forgot about my Fictionpress account. I had a few song lyrics and poems posted on that site, but I deleted them because that was a few years ago and a different place in my life. I really want to get back into writing again. It’s been a while since I have wrote anything new. Although, I don’t know why because I have tons of inspiration, probably just me procrastinating again for the most part. Well, I kind of have to be in the right mood to write too. For example, I can’t be tired or hungry. That’s distracts me. TV, music, and any noise actually, also distracts me. So I have to be in sort of a groove to write anything, even this blog. Anyways, I hope to add some new material up soon.
Good Day
It’s amazing how much better a good night’s sleep can make you feel. The other day I was just feeling so moody, for various reasons. I went to sleep, woke up the next morning, and I felt so much better. I wasn’t even thinking about all the things I was stressing the previous night. It really does work, for me at least.
It also makes me feel a lot better when I clean out all of the junk in my room that I don’t have use for. I can’t stand to have a closet full of clothes that I don’t wear and a bunch of old mail laying around. I have to get rid of it, because when I used to live at home where I grew up, I never threw anything away. Yeah, I was one of those people. I was afraid to throw stuff away thinking that I might use it for some reason later on. So I ended up with so much cluttered crap under my bed, in boxes and backpacks, shoved in the back of my closet, etc. I mean, when I moved out 2 summers ago, I still had stacks of graded homework assignments from middle school! I threw out most of that stuff by now, but I still have a drawer full of clothes there and 3 or 4 big boxes of my belongings that I haven’t had room for since I’ve moved out. It still bugs me knowing that I still have all that stuff there, some trash and some stuff I actually want to keep, and I have no idea when I will be able to make a day to go through it all.
Anyway, so I have been going through my stuff at this place little by little and throwing out stuff I don’t need. I got a lot done last night and I went to bed knowing that I had a decluttered room, plus with another night of great sleep, and today I feel so awesome and at peace with everything, even though there are a few things that are a little blah in my life right now. I just feel like it’s a great day and I’m in a great mood. It also helps knowing that I have the next two days off from work.
But I am off now, time for food!
Yay
It’s Girl Scout Cookie time! They are so good. My favorites are the Thin Mints and Do-Si-Dos! Who doesn’t love those?!
I’m so happy that Spring is almost here! It’s getting nicer outside which puts me in a better mood. I am planning a trip to Myrtle Beach, SC sometime this summer to visit my dad and grandparents. I’m so sad that the Pavillion, which is an amusement park we always use to go to, won’t be there anymore because they tore it down last year. But I still plan on going para-sailing, the water park, and there’s always lots of fun stuff to do around there. I can’t wait!
Daylight Savings Time
It sucks. I’m tired of this ‘gain and hour/lose an hour’ BS! It should just stay the same. Time isn’t supposed to change in the first place.
Anyways, I know what I will be getting with my tax check: clothes and a nice digital camera!
V-Day
I don’t understand why people get all weird over Valentine’s Day. If they are dating someone, they get all stressed out about what to get their other or how much to spend. If they are single, they get all bitter about not having someone for the occasion. People, it’s just a day. It’s nothing to get all bent out of shape over. And it doesn’t have to be about a significant other either. Single? Then go out and get something or do something nice for your friends and family and make the day all about those people. Or get something for yourself even.
Personally I’m not one to either get all excited and go out and buy a bunch of overly extravagant gifts or expect anything big for myself, nor am I one to bitch and moan about how much I hate it. I do think it’s made more of a big deal than it should be, and is a bit commercialized, but I just take the opportunity to get a nice, small little thing for the ones I care about. I don’t care for being wined and dined or getting expensive jewelry. I’d actually much more appreciate something that cost next to nothing but was thoughtful. That might sound cheesy but it’s true, for me anyways. But maybe that’s just me, I don’t know. Anyways, hope everyone has a nice one!
